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I said something mean to my dad and I regret it so much

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Lizmonique
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Yesterday, my parents got into a big fight over a small thing in the car. It was my dad who started the fight. My dad kept screaming and cursing at my mom. He said so many hurtful words to her like calling her stupid, wasted, always gives him headache, whore.

At first my mom just kept quiet and tried to calm him down but my dad kept on going and wouldn't stop.Then my mom starts yelling at him and he got angrier. He almost throw a thing at my mom. I've tried to stop him from being so mean to my mom from the beginning. But he wouldn't want to stop instead he kept screaming at my mom and even said he wanted a divorce.

There were two other people inside the car who are not our family members. I felt so embarrassed that they have to witness this kind of thing. The fact that he didn't respect my mom and said harsh words to her in front of other people and me really hurt me. It wasn't his first time doing that to my mom. He likes to yell and scream at my mom in front of anyone (in front of his friends, family, strangers, public). It is really hurtful and embarrassing for my mom to be treated that way so often.

So I started to cry and told him that I've been watching you doing this to mom so often since I was young. I couldn't stand it anymore. You should have respect mom more. Just because you have money doesn't mean that it is legal to treat your wife like that. You always verbally abuse mom and I have had enough of it. You know how much you hurt mom's feeling by keep doing this to her. "It's okay not to have a dad like you."

After I said that he kept quiet for awhile and said "I think I've been such a responsible dad and now you said that to me. Great." I knew I hurt him so much by saying that. My mom said that I should have not said that to him. I knew I was so wrong. I was so emotional and out of control.

I've said sorry to him last night. I gave him a hug and asked for his forgiveness. I said that I didn't mean it and told him that he is a good father. I could see some tears in his eyes. He told me to think first before I speak next time. He said he forgives me and told me that he loves me the most among his children.

I still feel bad now. I still cry. I think I've done the biggest mistake in my life by saying that to him. Everytime I look at his face, it makes me tear up. I hurt my father's feeling so much. I really regret it. I can't stop feeling guilty. :"(

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